Kankar Episode 18 – Beautiful Message

Thi ami, aap ki bhi izzat thi….ap ne karwaye nahi!

After Shaista insulted Kiran in every way possible, this one line by Kiran was enough to make any sane person realize who truly was at fault. Shaista’s focus on material things was yet again reflective of her way of thinking. It was nothing short of a shock for her that Kiran couldn’t care less about the jewelry or the money and she really was there to get her books. Shaista’s hatred for Kiran has been portrayed superbly; she can only wish that she could have had the courage to stand up to her husband like that and that is the reason why she will go out of her way to make Kiran regret her decision. Also, one very important reason for Shaista turning into an even more evil person is the fact that she knows that her niece is still “available”!

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The conversation between Adnan and Kiran was one of the many insightful and well thought-out conversations in today’s episode. This particular scene was brilliantly executed as well. Sanam Baloch is an extremely gifted actress; I can’t help but fall in love with every single expression over and over again. Her timing is absolutely flawless, she is undoubtedly a natural. The question Kiran asks Adnan was very ironic..
” Adnan tumhei mujh se hamdardi nahi hai?” Adnan’s expressions and the brief pause that followed said so much more than any words could. Kiran has no idea that what Adnan feels for her is much more than just compassion because Adnan will never tell her! Kiran’s dialogue about how it is alright with everyone if a girl suffers the pain of an abusive marriage but everyone thinks its wrong to get a divorce was spot on. I really like Kiran’s character, she is a very wise girl who knows that she has to look out for herself. She is brave enough to stand up for her rights and does not succumb to all the pressure.

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The conversation between Kiran and Shaista was extremely touching and thought provoking. I personally know people who always give the reference of the Quran when it comes to marital abuse but like Kiran pointed out they forget that the Quran has also put a lot of responsibility on the shoulders of men. And a man’s responsibility solely isn’t to provide a woman with shelter and basic necessities but to give her respect as well. This was another scene which was beautifully written; every single word made perfect sense.

Jo deen biwi ko shohar ka libas kehta hai vo us libas ko cheerne pharne ka kesa keh sakta haii?

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Thanks to his daughter, after so many years Jamal has realized how wrong he was. He thought, like Sikandar, that being a husband meant that you could treat your wife whichever way you desired but he knows better now. The way Jamal took a stand for his daughter was also very touching.

Tonight’s episode was extremely poignant, it was filled with conversations that were heartrending and the superb direction added to the beauty of all the scenes. This episode in particular seemed to be a labor of love; I must appreciate the superb direction by Aabis Raza, I am sure we will get to see much more creativity from him in the future too. Umera Ahmed has touched a very sensitive topic in a very intelligent way, giving us all a lot to ponder upon. She has shown the difference between the old thinking and the new one splendidly. Young people aren’t always wrong and the older one are not always right and there is always time to start afresh – to make new rules.

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The preview of the next episode showed that Shaista will leave no stone unturned to get Sikandar and Kiran divorced. Will Sikandar get married to Arzoo? Will their married life be the same as that of Kiran and Sikandar? Whose side will Shaista take then? There is obviously no hope for Sikandar and Kiran now.

Did you watch this latest installment. Please share your views about it and most importantly please share your favorite dialogues from tonight’s episode.

 

Fatima Awan

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  • Fairy

    excellent episode. sanam is marvelous in tonight’s episode. its good to see that this drama is different in the sense that kiran stood for her rights her decision also corrected her father’s views. she is having extremely strong personality. dialogues were written very nicely and kiran’s ans to shaista from quran proved that she is right. the show is near to end and I hope kiran’s point will be further clarified when arzoo will marry sikandar and his attitude will reveal kiran’s truth. only then shaista will realize her mistake and weak areas of her family.

    • FatimaAwan

      I am glad that you are enjoying the show Fairy. The dialogues really were marvelous. It is so good to hear from you, I hope we will be seeing you here more often now.

  • Aiman

    Har friday mere ghar main is drama ki waja se 3rd world war start ho jati hai jo sunday takk jari rehti hai…main ammi per ‘drone attacks’ karti hoon aur woh mujper purane zamane ki toopon k goole barsati hain..lolxx ..but thanks to UA finally ab kahin ja kar ammi aur main end main ek side per ho jate hain keh compromise shayad har rishte ki zarorat hota hai but ‘maar peet’ nai..but ammi yeh kehna nai bholti ‘its just a drama..fantasy..reality diff hoti hai..our society is much more evil’
    I lvd each & everything of todays epi..dialogues,acting & direction, Aabis Raza really deserve lots of appreciation..esp woh scene jab Shaista Kiran k jane k baad bed per bethti hai, itni khobsorti se Kiran aur Shaista k beech ka diff show kia gaya uss scene main..ek side per woh sub jo Kiran chor kar chali gai aur dosri taraf Shaista…loved it!!
    Aur Shukar UA ne Is Hadees ko cover ki is drama main warna log isko misuse karte hain, ja kar dramasonline main previous epis k comments hi parh lain kis tarhan log Islam ko misuse karte hain (hate such hypocrites!)
    Jst loved Sanam in todays epi..jb woh kehti hain na ‘Izzat Bachali’ aww..mere dil ko bhi kuch howa, sachi much itna rona aaya..lv u Sanam!! And lasty loved that dialogue ‘Jo deen biwi ko shohar ka libas kehta hai woh us libas ko cheerne pharne ka hukum kese de sakta hai’…aur haan itne arse baad aapne har har baat cover kari apne review main…epi ka hakk ada kar dia..

    • sanoritta

      exactly.logon k comments prev episodes pe yehi thay k mard ko haq ha maar skta ha.umera ahmed ne logon ki soch k mutabiq aj ki episode mein sab clear kiya..loved it

      • Aiman

        but woh log phir bhi kuch nahi samjhen ge…woh humari society ki “Shaista” hain..lolxxx

    • FatimaAwan

      haha I am glad you two agreed in the end:) I think amis ko thori si yeh bhi insecurity hoti ho gi ke hamari betiyan ghalt message na le li drama se. I love Kiran’s character and yes your mom is right itni himat asal mein sub mei nahi hoti! Many women put up with the worse because like Adnan says sub ke jootay khanay se behtr hai aik admi ke jootay kha lo – that thinking is very common and most often people do succumb to all the pressure. Some of the people are commenting even now ke Kiran ko aik aur thapar ki zarurat hai – which shows ke logo ko samjahna aur un ki thinking change krna buhat mushkil hai.

      • Aiman

        Mjhe samaj nai aata yeh logo k double standards keh yahan Kiran ‘ghalat’ hai bcuz society isse ziada kharab hai..yahan Kiran sirf is liye ghalat hai cuz wo khud divorce le rai hai…but jin aurton ko unke mian divorce de dete hain ya jo bewah ho jati hain..woh ‘mazlom’ hoti hain..aur us wakt society ‘ghalat’ hoti hai..but woh yeh point miss kar jate hain k aurat chahe khud divorce le ya usko ho jai..society to same tauheen aamaze attitude rakhti hai ‘talak yafta ya bewah’ khawateen k sath..bajai society ko change karne ki baat karne k, bajai yeh kehne k keh hum apne aani wali naslon ki achi tarbiat karen ge takkeh society ko badle, women in our society say ‘aurat zuban chalai gi aur mard thappar mare ga..simple rule hai!!’ (hw pathetic this mindset it) society se darane walon se main pochna chahti hoon jin khawateen k husband mar jate hain, ya jinki shadi hi nai hoti (cuz of our sick SOCIETY) , woh khawateen unke khayal main kia IZZAT ki zindagi nai jeeti? Ya woh KAMYAB zindagi nai guzarti kia? U knw wat guys ‘mard/shohar na aurat ka Malik hai na uska Razik’ Aurat ka MALIK bhi Allah hai aur uska RAZIK bhi Allah hai, jb usne aurat ko banaya hai na toh uski HIFAZAT bhi karta hai ba-sharte keh Usper Yakeen ho..
        UA se mene kuch aur seekha ho ya nai but ALLAH per Yakeen Rakhna zaror seekha hai…jab ek maa kabhi apne bache ka hath mele main nai chorti to phir ALLAH humko kese chor sakta hai..bss usper Yakeen ho to dunya asan warna society, society rote raho aur zulm sehte raho…

        • FatimaAwan

          Aise log yeh nahi sochte ke kya yeh log jo un ko tough time dete hei aur batein banate hein kabhi un ke saath khare huve in time of need – you are right we really need to set our priorities straight – log kya kahain gay aur hum logo ke sawalo ke jawab kese dain gay is our biggest predicament. You have explained the role of a man in a woman’s life beautifully. Bless you.

          • Aiman

            Bilkul sahi keh rai hain aap…jb zarorat hoti he madad ki to society sulemani chadar orh kar ghayab hojati hai aur hum iski fikar main ghul rahe hote hain…wese ek interesting fact hai k ab hum ‘ghalat’ kam karte howe society se nai darte woh humara ‘personal matter’ hota hai…but ab hum ‘sahi’ kam karte howe society se darte hain..strange na…lets see aagey kia hota hai…

          • FatimaAwan

            That is so true Aiman and the reason for that mainly is that sadly our society is full of hypocrites. aur haan yeh bhi sach hai ke ghalt aur sahi ki tameez hum mein se buhat se logon mei nahi hai. I don’t mean to generalize but there are very few people who are not like that, it has become a contagious disease.

    • Atif Ahmed

      Unbelievable. Only people with masochistic tendencies can go through this torture called Kankar and who is Umera Ahmed?

      • Aiman

        Aapne dekha hai yeh drama poora? Agar nahi to phir itna bara aur stupid statement na dain baghair kuch samjhe…
        Jab aapko Umera Ahmed ka nai patah toh aage kia baat karon main aapse…
        Aap dekhte hain Pakistani Dramas? Bcuz agar aap Pak dramas k regular follower hote toh aapko patah hota k who is Umera Ahmed aur woh kia likhti hain…aur kis liye likhti hain…

        • Atif Ahmed

          I think you are beyond repair. I rest my case.

          • Aiman

            Hahaha….Ek toh yeh khob aadat hoti hai aap logo main…pehle stupid baat karte hain dosron se..jab jawab milta hai aur aap apni baat ka difa karne k kabil nai rehte to dosron per pesonal attacks karne lagte hain…

  • Guest

    Hjam

  • Sania Hasan

    Totally agree with your review.. Good job keep it up and good luck 🙂

    • FatimaAwan

      Thank you Sania, do drop by more often and share your opinion about the play:)

  • Kanwal Murtaza

    They seem to be stretching this endlessly. The promos show Arzoo getting married to Sikander and having a baby. It would be interesting to see how things shape up.

    • FatimaAwan

      I hope they wrap it up nicely. All dramas are dragged nowadays so I take that as a given now! I think the drama will move forward from the next episode and hopefully end in the next 3 episodes or so.

  • Sofia

    As far as the acting of Sanam Baloch is concerned I totally agree with Fatima Awan.
    However, I disagree with what has been written about Umera Ahmad that she has
    splendidly shown the difference between old and new thinking. Umera Ahmad has
    misrepresented the role of a mother. No mother on earth would force her
    daughter to remain with a husband who physically abuses her and is responsible
    for her child’s death, especially if she has been abused herself. Besides, the
    abuser never comes to his senses unless his wife demands divorce and
    subsequently files a petition for it.

    Sikandar will treat Arzoo in the same way as he treated Kiran.

    The verse Sanam Baloch (4:35) quoted in the part 3 refers to those wives who are constantly resistive and threat to the harmony
    and peace of the family or even have an extramarital affair.

    The Holy Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said as follows;

    1. Don’t beat your wives. They are not your slaves.

    2. If at all a Muslim has to beat his wife, the beating should not be such as to leave any mark on her body, but the husbands who beat their wives are not the best among men. (Tirmedhi and Muslim)

    3. He (peace and blessing be upon him) also reported to have said that the best among you is the one who treats his wife in the best way.

    To interpret the verse in question one has to consider his (pbuh) behaviour towards his wives. He has never beaten his wives. He treated them benevolently and affectionately.

    • farah.S

      Totally agree with you. Umera Ahmed has thoroughly misrepresented mothers.mothers always sympathise with daughters in this situation.

      • Tss Keeny

        I think the mother herself is conflicted. On one hand she does not want her daughters house to spilt. And on the other hand she feels the agony her daughter is going through. Having gone through such torment the mother bowed to the pressure of society and bore all the abuse. Now its her daughters turn and she does not want any of that happening to her but at the same time she has difficulty understanding why kiran is not succumbing to demands of society. I feel as if the mother has portrayed this mixture of emotions perfectly. That scene when Kiran in-laws leave, the mother comes to kirans room and enquires why she did not go with her in-laws. When kiran replies “main na izzaat choose ki ghar nahi” and then mother embraces kiran in hug. I thought this scene illustrated the conflicting emotions of mother to perfection. She sypathises with her daughter. She feels her pain. And she did not want even want any of this to happen in first place – comments like “kia musibaat ban gai” or “mamla khatam hoi”. shows that she wants all of this business to disappear. She wants the pain to go away. It hurts her to much. It hurts her deeply.
        I am not implying that mothers strategy is wise or any better. But that it is natural and understandable.

        And how can you say that old v.s new generation are not highlighted. Our elders would follow the tradition whether it was fair or not. The newer generation is taking a stand. They are not disrespectful or anything like that. But they are more courageous. Iike what fatima awan said ” young are not always wrong and elders are not always right”. When I read that I could help think about this shair of allama iqbal ” Zamanay kay andaaz badlay gaey / Naya raag hai saaz badlay gaey Khirad ko ghulami say aazad kar / Jawanon ko peeron ka ustad kar

        Finally i would say this drama is truly amazing drama, intially i had my reseravtions but lately i can not wait for saturday to come.

        • FatimaAwan

          Yes, that scene said so much. If we had few more scenes like that, it would have been more relatable.

        • tahira

          YOu are right!! the mother’s conflicting emotions totally are revealed here

      • tahira

        Farah,

        I think the mother sympathizes but she is feeling ‘tough love’ – she wants Kiran’s husband to treat her well but she also doesnt want to break her home. She probably feels that if she could do it so can Kiran and since things improved for her over time they will change for Kiran too.

        The only way such a mom can stand by Kiran if the mom is a strong woman who believes more in justice and dignity and not so much in what the world will say. I hate to say it but most of the moms are to weak to stand against society; they would rather act with cowardice, not take a stand etc just so that log kuch na kahein !!

        • tahira

          I also think Umera wanted to show the opposite – the father who himself abused his wife feeling the pain for his daughter now that the tables are turned. He now realizes what his wife must have suffered then.

          This is a very powerful message and must not be underestimated.

          Both he and Sikander’s dad were made to look shameful in the scene even though the situation did not concern them directly.

          • Sofia

            She can positively portray a former abuser
            in his role as a father, but is unable to show what a mother without doubtful past normally feels and
            should feel for her daughter.

          • FatimaAwan

            Sofia do you think that UA is undermining the status of mothers on purpose? That is what I get from your comments.

      • sadia

        i am not sure if you can generalize your statement, because i have seen mothers pushing the daughters to go back to susraal, the same way as it was shown in the drama,,they do empathize but then they think it is still a better option for their daughters. this is how they lived their own lives..

    • FatimaAwan

      I agree with you Sofia and I mentioned it one of my previous reviews as well that they should have shown how Aysha feels about Kiran’s situation in private too. However I do not agree with the statement that No mother on earth would force her
      daughter to remain with a husband who physically abuses her and is responsible
      for her child’s death. I have seen mothers like that in real life who are so afraid of what people will say that they let their daughter put up with the worse. I have seen mothers who even ask their daughters put up with husbands who cheat and abuse them just for the sake of children. Kiran’s mother has also always felt like her daughter is too blunt so she does think that she could have avoided all these situations. There are mothers like that too! Yes the portrayal could have been more apt but that could have been the director’s fault too.

      • farah.S

        Fatima, So if scene is good credit goes to writer and if there is a flaw then that could have been directors fault!!

        • FatimaAwan

          I just said that it could have been that farah S, I am not saying that it is and I gave tons of credit to the director in my review too. It is nothing personal:)

          • farah.S

            Fatima, I know it is nothing personal. Believe me it was a lighthearted comment. I never doubt integrity f your comments. I’m simply enjoying the heated discussion this episode has generated.

          • FatimaAwan

            Of course I do too. I also said it in a candid way:) Keep reading and commenting.

      • guest

        Umera Ahmed has written Dur-e-shehwar on thr same pattern which shows the same theme but it was presented with past memories and present conditions .Girls see their fathers perfect never thought bad about then even any inch of length . Kankar `s behroz sabzwari and dur-e-ehehwar `s Qawi khan displayed same duality ; they behaved their wives starangers and remained aloof and arrogant but when fate turn the same card towards their offspring , they resist and become a defensive wall for their daughters and situation leads towards separation , It shows higher divorce rate vs children insecurities .

        Drama revolves around the same idea that is divorce . Why Kiran is thinking divorce is only solution and after it she would be labeled respected . Divorced ladies are not esteemed . Yes , it is a very brave decision to choose between respect and love ; but who will decide she would be respected after marriage ,

        @FatimaAwan:disqus you totally forget to catch the view of Begroz when Kiran is saying she has complaints against her father-in-law. You did not highlighted the duality of kiran`s father at that time and her ashamed face.

        When in-lwas came ,does it is permissible to debate like we do with class mate or acting of sanam baloch is not suiting the scene . She do not think and questioned with her father getting informed by her mother she is also beaten and abused lady of her father once .Kiran should also raised the same question to her parents as well too.

        I agree the mismatch of sikandar and sanam baloch ; materialistic and soul based love . Sikandr thought kiran would be fine when he will heap up all the precious things around him .

        Whereas Kiran heart is demanding just one thing that is love and love without respect is unbearable and we can not say it is love at all . yes , it is need and habit just which can be replaced with some one else . As Iqbal nicely said :

        خاموش اے دل بھری محفل میں چلانا نہیں اچھا
        ادب پہلا قرینہ ہے محبت کے قرینوں میں

        And , war between and love and lust witll go side by side . Who ever seek for respect is separated either she is married and engaged . Man consider girls and women just a bargaining chip ; just to see them submissive .

        Yes , one should revolt again the established norm of culture which is wrong . But always rebel has to face punishment for sins which she or he has not committed at all .
        Should we all reflect this beautiful message which is in fact a good one but will not change a mind set . It will create loneliness . in present culture . same sex compassion has increased due to misogyny ,misanthropy and feminism , So what Umera is suggesting is not a solution at all rather complicate the situation further as well too .

      • sofia

        It is hard for me to believe that a mother who is on easy street like Aysha can be so insensitive towards her daughter. I have never met or seen one in my life. I have met mothers who suffer if their daughters or sons suffer, mothers who are caring, understanding and supportive and under whose feet the paradise of their children lies.

        Even if mothers like Ayesha do exist in our society do behave like this despite their being well off, they must be in minority.

        I agree that Umera Ahmad intelligently writes the story and dialogues, but nevertheless almost all of her serials convey one wrong message or even more.

        • FatimaAwan

          Sofia, I don’t understand, what wrong message is the writer conveying? Yes, the portrayal of the mother may not be that apt but what wrong message is it giving?

    • tahira

      sofia, its hard to imagine it but mothers and grandmothers know deep down that this is wrong but domestic violence has been part of our culture unfortunately for so long that it has become acceptable. Just like everyone knows bribery is wrong yet they still give and take it.

      I think there are many many reasons why I mother would still push her daughter to go back and some of these we have seen Kiran’s mom give to her daughter

      – divorce is a stigma
      – he gives u so much materially
      – he loves you
      – your dad it and I took it so can you (indicated this not said directly)

      Other reasons
      – when parents not financially well off
      – when mothers are weak themselves and have never stood up for themselves
      – when mothers are not very educated
      – when mothers themselves have not internalized that the violence they suffered was wrong

      and so many more…

      • Sofia

        The reasons
        you have given are not applicable to Kiran’s mother. She is an educated person
        and her husband earns enough to provide for his whole family. Therefore, I am
        still convinced that a mother of these circumstances would not force her
        daughter to go back.

      • farah.S

        Tahira, with all due respect I have to disagree here. All above reasons don’t apply to Kiran’s family. Things are changing and I have seen mothers supporting their daughters and taking decent stand. What really bugs me is the way Kiran’s mother never really shown to be really upset about the treatment Kiran met at hands of Sikander and Co.
        I still feel that writer could have delivered the same message effectively without showing us weak, materialistic compromised mothers.

    • Aysha

      Sofia, the quranic aya you have mentioned above from sura nisa (4:34), the word “wadribuhunna” in that aya has been translated as “beating” by many schoalrs. But I have talked to scholars from other countries and have found translations on line where the word has been translated as “leave alone”. How can Allah allow domestic abuse? Even it does not leave a mark, hitting is an insult to an adult woman and it leaves emotional scars. Also when you said if wives who are threat to the family’s harmony she can be hit, that could be merely husband’s “opinion” about the wife and there may not be any truth to that. Most likely, in that situation, the wife would have same opinion about the husband. If both husband and wife blame each other for not fullfiling their duties, you can not make one of them (husband) a judge and decide who is wrong and who is right. For extra marital affair , punishement for both man and woman is the same, but it has to be “proven” first. If husabnd is a shakki mizaj person and he “thinks” that wife has extra marital affair, he is no one to punish her without any court involvement unless she is proven guilty. If a wife “thinks” that husband has an extra marital affair, she is supposed to go to elders of the family or unbiased person (judge/qazi) to decide if she is right or wong in her accusations. She does not become a judge to decide and then punsih the husband. Shouldnt the rule be same for both the spouses?

  • asma

    Tears rolled down my cheeks after watching this episode,extermely touchy ,sanam baloch is really a born actress,fatima beautifully reviewed this.my favourite dialogues r between shaista and kiran about marital abuse in the light of quran and hadis,umera beautifully explained in detail about this.

    • FatimaAwan

      This was a very moving episode, I am so tired of watching senseless dramas and really appreciate writers who actually think things through before penning down a script. Asma, thank you for liking the review and for sharing your thoughts.

  • Asma D

    I liked the episode and enjoyed your review. Adnan & Kiran scene was heart warming. The way Shaista treated Kiran was horrible, I loved Kiran’s reply to her. I was happy to see Kiran’s father take a stand for her, especially when he spoke to Sikandar. The only part I did not really like was when Kiran told her father-in-law it is all your fault. Sikandar’s father was the only person in her susral who was always nice to Kiran and he did not speak negatively about Kiran behind her back. Since Kiran’s parents were present, it would have been embarrassing for her father in law. Kiran should not speak to him that way in front of everyone, baron ki izzat aur lehaz karna chaheyey. Sanam Baloch and the leading cast have done justice to their roles, great performance.

    • FatimaAwan

      I agree Asma,, that was a little too much but I think what they are showing is that Kiran has passed that izzat aur lihaz wala phase. She just wants this marriage to end and does not care about anyone in that family now. Thanks a ton for reading the review and for commenting. I really appreciate it.

  • adeeba

    yes , this dram should be seen by all pakistani men >.there is a true message in it .

  • sarah

    Fabulous acting by Sanam Baloch. Love you Sanam

  • farzana

    I love this drama and wait for it all the 7 days, it become very crucial waiting for it. I saw these kind of examples at my home also, my sister in law always had complaints, and unlike kiran she took divorce just because my brother didn’t give him diamond set in her ‘moo dikhai’, she demanded divorce, and its been 19 years they are divorced. Farzana.

  • sonia

    they have dragged this affair now! the divorce has been on the verge for three weeks. enough already!! finalize the divorce and move the heck on

    • farah.S

      Agree they should finalise the divorce n move on. We had enough messages. I am against domestic violence n I like dramas with lessons but I am not keen on drama writers acting like reformers and lecturers. You watch a show for five months to get a message that you already know from every day life. We get so many lectures from scholars and politicians. Please make dramas with right combination of message and entertainment.

      • tahira

        sonia and farah, I think you are missing the point. Sure the divorce could have been done months ago and it would be the end of the story but I think the point here is to take an indepth look at domestic violence, at what goes on within families when the daughetr comes home, how the husbands behave and their families, how families try to patch up, what the world says, the conflicting emotions concerned members feel and most importantly, if the husband feels remorse.

        If the divorce would have been finalized much before how would we have seen all this?

        this drama is going to give every man and woman a lot of food for thought!!!

  • Hina

    AOA! The review has been beautifully written! The dialogues r fabulously written & executed by all the actors. I felt a heartbreak for Kiran & Sikandar when they saw eachother just before they were departing..which showed “pain” in their expressions! No doubt at this point Divorce wz better option than staying in such a dysfunctional relationship, still both of them wud hav to undergo the pain of losing eachother!
    Bt then..this z what life z all about.. Sometimes you get something without even asking & the other times you just keep crying for your heart’s desire!
    ONLY ALLAH KNOWS WHAT IS GOOD FOR US! May HE BLESS US ALL WITH WHAT IS BEST FOR US..AMEEN.

    • FatimaAwan

      Thank you so much for liking the review and for sharing your thoughts Hina. Hope to hear from you more often:)

  • tahira

    The defense Kiran presents on behalf of herself before her husband, inlaws and parents could not have been better. Such an important and sensitive topic was touched exquisitely from an Islamic perspective that left everyone speechless. Shaista had no option but to get up and leave with her husband and family.

    This scene was not just about standing up for the rights of a wife from an Islamic perspective. It also highlights that a person in the wrong needs strength of character and guts to admit he is wrong. If Sikandar’s father was a man of strong character he would have admitted his mistake and not kept quiet. No doubt it would have been a n extremely hard thing to do but a man who really feared Allah, who had moral courage and who had realized that his own behavior had messed up his son’s mind about the rights of a wife would have done so. I would have respected him so much had he done that because we all know how hard it is in our culture for an older person or the head of the family to admit his mistake.

    I think every woman who is subjected to domestic violence should learn from this and stand up for herself. If she doesn’t no one else will !!

    It was also interesting how for a while when Kiran was talking about him the visual focused on Shausta and Sikandar.

    • FatimaAwan

      Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts Tahira.

  • farah.S

    Nice review Fatima. I watched complete episode and thoroughly disliked it. Don’t you think the drama is misrepresenting mothers. If daughters suffers insult, beating and the beating results in loss of child, mothers always always cry n weep for their daughters at least in privacy oh their homes. They feel for them. They may ask their daughter to go back to their husbands but they don’t blame their daughters as Kiran’s mother does. I’m disturbed at this portrayel of mothers. This is not a good message, it is wrong n unfair portrayel of mothers. No thanks to Umera Ahmed.

    • FatimaAwan

      farah I also mentioned in one of my reviews that Aysha should have been shown crying in private and that her attitude is too rigid. Other than that the actual message that the drama is sending out is great – the message about marital abuse and why it is not okay. No drama is perfect, I think UA has done a commendable job. After watching many trashy dramas lately, I really appreciate Umera Ahmed for putting so much thought into writing her plays.

    • Guest

      kiran’s mother cried in last scene

      • FatimaAwan

        Apparently that was not good enough she should cry some more lol

        • Aiman

          hahaha..but agar woh ro daiti toh Kiran ki himmat kon barhata??

          • FatimaAwan

            lol I know, it was just a joke. I think it was a brief but a very important scene.

          • Aiman

            I knw it wz a joke…..but hadd hai kuch logo per…18 episodes nahi dekhi drama ki sirf ek epi dekhi aur character ko samajh bhi lia aur writer per tankeed bhi shoro kerdi apni aadat keh mutabik…uff yeh FREEDOM OF SPEECH!!!

  • Nadia

    The direction is really what is making the drama stand out. Any other director would have butchered UA’s script. Sanam Baloch is brilliant with her expressions.

    It really nice reading your review Fatima. It’s been a long time!

    Thanks!
    Nadia

    http://dramafanblog.wordpress.com

    • FatimaAwan

      Hi Nadia, yes it has been a long time:) Some of the episodes in particular are very well directed and this was one of them. Thank you so much for dropping by.

  • Rashid Nazir Ali

    a perfect episode and review in all ways, umera used quran and hadith to clarify the general perception which prevails in our society with regards to religion. i was surprised to hear the dialog “quran nay insaan ko ashraful makhlooqat kaha hai, insaan ko , mard ko nahin, mard or aurat donon ko”, most of the time, i felt umera’s writing portray message that man is superior over women, I must say, the worst enemy of our religion are those, who perform oppression, violence and injustice in the name of our religion.

    some fellows are commenting that sikandar will treat aarzoo the same way he does to kiran, in actual story it is quite different, lets see how they show it in drama.

    • FatimaAwan

      Thanks a lot for your regular feedback Rashid Nazir Ali. There are so many real life stories which I hear from people which remind me of the plays that have been written by Umera Ahmed, that is something that makes me appreciate her writings even more. When Kankar started off I felt like it had nothing new to offer but I am so glad that I was proven wrong. What happened in the novel? Please tell.

      • Rashid Nazir Ali

        [SPOILER ALERT] in novel he will marry aarzoo but will be least bothered about her, will completely ignore her. lets see how it goes in drama.

        • FatimaAwan

          That is what it looks like right now, maybe Arzoo will react to his cold behavior and he will end up hitting her, lets see. Thank you for answering:)

        • AN

          What is the name of the novel please?

  • Noor Iman

    Umera Ahmed has written Dur-e-shehwar on thr same pattern which shows the same theme but it was presented with past memories and present conditions .Girls see their fathers perfect never thought bad about then even any inch of length . Kankar `s behroz sabzwari and dur-e-ehehwar `s Qawi khan displayed same duality ; they behaved their wives starangers and remained aloof and arrogant but when fate turn the same card towards their offspring , they resist and become a defensive wall for their daughters and situation leads towards separation , It shows higher divorce rate vs children insecurities .

    Drama revolves around the same idea that is divorce . Why Kiran is thinking divorce is only solution and after it she would be labeled respected . Divorced ladies are not esteemed . Yes , it is a very brave decision to choose between respect and love ; but who will decide she would be respected after marriage ,

    @FatimaAwan:disqus you totally forget to catch the view of Begroz when Kiran is saying she has complaints against her father-in-law. You did not highlighted the duality of kiran`s father at that time and her ashamed face.

    When in-lwas came ,does it is permissible to debate like we do with class mate or acting of sanam baloch is not suiting the scene . She do not think and questioned with her father getting informed by her mother she is also beaten and abused lady of her father once .Kiran should also raised the same question to her parents as well too.

    I agree the mismatch of sikandar and sanam baloch ; materialistic and soul based love . Sikandr thought kiran would be fine when he will heap up all the precious things around him .

    Whereas Kiran heart is demanding just one thing that is love and love without respect is unbearable and we can not say it is love at all . yes , it is need and habit just which can be replaced with some one else . As Iqbal nicely said :

    خاموش اے دل بھری محفل میں چلانا نہیں اچھا
    ادب پہلا قرینہ ہے محبت کے قرینوں میں

    And , war between and love and lust witll go side by side . Who ever seek for respect is separated either she is married and engaged . Man consider girls and women just a bargaining chip ; just to see them submissive .

    Yes , one should revolt again the established norm of culture which is wrong . But always rebel has to face punishment for sins which she or he has not committed at all .
    Should we all reflect this beautiful message which is in fact a good one but will not change a mind set . It will create loneliness . in present culture . same sex compassion has increased due to misogyny ,misanthropy and feminism , So what Umera is suggesting is not a solution at all rather complicate the situation further as well too .

    • raja

      totalyy agre krta hoon ap ce , ap ka tajzia bht aal he

    • shaheen

      ap ne dur-e-shewar or kanakr me jo misaleen de wo waqey he hamrey maashrey ke examples hen ,. izzat or mohabbat .. excellent

  • Haya

    Your review as usual, was spot on. Indeed there are mothers unfortunately who would insist on their daughter sticking on to a bad or abusive marriage. I think that’s more to do with the economic situation. Kiran has two sisters. They are a middle class family. The divorce would affect the sisters. Plus it isn’t easy to remarry. However in a rich upper class society (Zindagi Gulzar Hai as an example) the mother(Hina Bayat) didn’t bat an eyelid when her daughter was getting divorced.

    That’s not to say either mom is justified. It simply shows that when there are different economics involved, people react differently.

    All said and done, the abuse is never justified and fathers everywhere have a lesson to learn too. Treat your wives the way you want your daughters to be treated.

    • FatimaAwan

      Haya I agree with you, the biggest problems for such mothers is answering people’s questions and yes getting their daughters married again. Sikandar has a sound financial background and he is apologizing again and again, so Kiran’s mother thinks that there may be hope for her daughter. Thanks a lot for commenting:)

      • Haya

        I wanted to stand up and applaud Kiran on several occasions: her one comment to her mother in law and the conversation with Adnan. Sanam is an actor par excellence but the writer of the dialogues is outstanding!

        • FatimaAwan

          Totally agree with you Haya, a good script, great direction and superb acting make dramas memorable. This episode was very well directed as well.

  • sadia

    A very well written review once again Fatima.. amazing insight and excellent writing skills. Keep it up 🙂

    • FatimaAwan

      Thank you so much Sadia.

  • I.B

    Umera ahmed!i apriciate you!i like your all novels very much!i read your all novels!ma apko boht pasand kerty hon!ap nay jitny be novels lekhay h on sub may koe na koe lesson zeror hota h!ur rehy baat kankar ke to ap nay esay be boht achey wording may lekha h!if you read my comment plzzzzzzzzzzz reply to me!mere dua h k ap hamesha ese terha lekhty rehain!you are my favirate writer!r Apka sub say famous novel pir e kamil !mujay boht pasand h!

  • Farkhanda Bint Mohammad

    very good review by fatima awan, yeh drama asal mei aik sabaq hai un aurato k liye jo sirf kapro or zevaro k dhair par hi khush rehti hain chahay izzat e nafs kitni hi majrooh hoti rahe or yehi sabaq woh anay waali naslo ko deti hain. agar kiran bhi yeh samjhota kardeti tu yeh kaam nasal dar nasal chalta rehta or uska bacha bhi uskay baap se maa ko maar khaatay dekhta or agay wahi apni bewi k saath karta or beti hoti tu woh apna maa ki tarha maar khaa kar hi jeena seekhti…………or dosra sabaq yeh tha is drama mei k akhir kiran k baap ko ehsaas houa k woh kisi or ki beti ki kitni tazleel karta raha jab uski apni beti ki itni tazleel hoti rahi. teesra sabaq tu arzoo or uski amma ko milne wala hai bohat jald, jo dosro k ghar barbaad karne or honay par khush hoti rehti hain or har waqt jalti or kurti rehti hain……………jab woh sikandar se maar peet khayegi tu shayad tab un sab ki aqal thikaanay ayegi k kisi ki beti par zulm kiya tu woh zulm na tha laikin ab apni beti par ayega tu woh zulm hoga…………cant wait to see arzoo beaten up by sikandar 😉 lolz

    • FatimaAwan

      lol glad you liked the review Farkhanda. I hope we will be seeing you here more often now:)

      • Farkhanda Bint Mohammad

        thnx for the reply dear 🙂

  • ifrah

    Beautiful episode and beautiully reviewed Fatima…i’d like to disagree with girls commenting here about the mother insisting Kiran to go back to her married life…reality indeed is this…i happen to belong to an educated middle class family and all through my college and later work experience has showed me how a girl is stuck chiefly cuz she has no support from her mother (father tou duur ki baat). It’s basically a given thing…the mentality that ab janaza he niklay ga susraal say is still deeply entrenched…bitter but true!
    Another thing i liked about this episode is how a woman is shown to actually be the other womans cause of pain.this is a terrible reality of our society.rather than working on your next generation of boys to be good husbands, Shaista sits there commenting on how a man has a right to hit his wife! We teach our girls to be good obedient wives since we are of marriagable age but the boys are never taught how to be good husbands. Have you ever heard of parents tell the boys in your house that they need to be caring husbands? Very very rare indeed.
    Great review Fatima.

    • FatimaAwan

      Ifrah thank you so much for reading the review for liking it and most of all for sharing your thoughts. You are right most of the girls don’t even share what is happening in their susral with their parents and once they have kids then there is absolutely no going back. Parents also know that once the daughter gets divorced it is very difficult to get her married again so they try their best that she should stay with her husband. lol I have heard women my age group even saying “mian chahe tu biwi ko jootay bhi maar sakta hai”!

  • Malik

    All is not well. No good message to young generation. Right, domestic voilance is condemned in a very good way but Kirn,s attitude now is not positive. Marriage should not break when Sikandar confessed his guilt and even his family. The worst part of this episode is that all doors of conciliation are going to be closed, that is not fair, however every problem has solution.

    • FatimaAwan

      Like Kiran said fitrat nahi budli ja sakti – personally I agree with her. Kiran has given Sikandar many chances she doesn’t want to try him any more. yes divorce is the solution to this problem before they have kids and there are more lives involved.

      • AN

        I think that Kiran shouldn’t go back to her husband but give him a chance to fix him self. They both should go for Family and marriage therapy. I really think that helps married people. I know this concept has not implemented and well respected in our society about getting help form a professional on your marital problems but that does help. …. and that is why there are so many marriage concealers out there. Parents and family do help, but at the end of the day every parent just think of their own kid. Parents cannot see their child going through pain. They always think about taking their kids out of the pain as soon as possible. You are right that Fitart doesn’t change, but I think that if Kiran has to give him a one proper chance then it should be towards some kind of fixable solution and in that case marriage therapy is an option.

        • FatimaAwan

          AN they haven’t shown the chances that Kiran has given Sikandar previously but we have only heard about them so I think that is why there is confusion.

    • farah.S

      Agree. I know ladies will hate me. But we are getting hysterical about voilence. You have to look ya overall situation. I think Kiran is hypersensitive and argumentative. Drama is not presenting complete and balanced picture.

      • Big mouth

        Agree with u farah kiran is argumentative and and . She can also be labeled as compulsive back answering . We can’t call her submissive wife . Just like her husband is abusive and violent by nature ” fitrat” she has to refute and retaliate back .

        • FatimaAwan

          I think that is exactly what the writer is showing that even if a woman is argumentative that is no reason to hit her! Kiran is not a bechari on purpose, that is how the writer wants this girl to be.

          • Big mouth

            U are right in ur explanation . One can’t hit his wife because she back answer you . It’s only when a husband fails to give a substantial answer in a argument or ” proven wrong ” in a discussion he stoops down to abuse and hitting .

      • FatimaAwan

        You are right Kiran is not perfect, that is exactly what they have shown that even if a woman argues that does not mean that a man can hit her.

  • iqra

    i wonder why you people are in favour of kiran. “Taali kbhi aik hath se nahe bajti” . agar us k aur sikander k drmiyan jhagra hai to wo donon he ki wjah se hai, agar sikander ki ghalti hai to kiran bhe koi sati saawitri nahe hai, bl k honestly speaking, ziyada ghalti kiran ki he hai.. wo hr bat per mubalgha aaraai se kam laiti hai, raai ko pahaar bna kr dusroon k samnay paish krti hai, aurat ko smjhdaari se kaam lena chahiye aur choti choti baton pe shohar k agay zbaan drazi nahe krni chahiye, yahan per mostly girls yeh farma rhe hain k islam k point of view se aurat per hath uthana mna hai, lekin wo yeh kiyun bhool jati hain k islam mein to shohar k aagay bdtmeezi krna aur zbaan chlana bhe sakht mna hai… humari society k log islam mein se sirf apne matlab ki baten nikal kr highlight kr dete hain aur tasweeer ka dusra rukh dekhne ki koshish nahe krtay.. its really sad :/

    • FatimaAwan

      Agreed kahin na kahin Kiran ki bhi ghalti hai pur is ka matlab yeh hai ke Sikandar usay mare aur galiyan day? Kiran itni buri hai tu usay chor kyun nahi deta? Ghulam bana ke sath kyun rakhna chahta hai? Sikandar is a control freak that is why he cannot let Kiran go and that is why he hits her.

  • ayesha

    ghalti kiran ki he hai, sikander bechara itni mafian mang rha hai to usay aik moqqa dena hi chahiye, lekin madam ki ego hi khatm nhe ho rhe

  • Guest

    Aurat toot jai gi…liffay gi nahin! Kiren ke parents ka qasoor hai ke unhun ne us ko intna sensitive bana diya, aur kisi bhi cheez sehne ki aadet nahin ai use…yeh dunya chalti hi compromisation se hai…Akhir puri dunya mein bache apne parents ki maar bhi tou sehte hain, still knowing that they love them…

  • urooj

    this is truly the best drama acting wise i have seen in a long time very touching n mesmerising

  • unknown human

    well this is stereotype thought.beating women is done in lower class men.other side of story is differnt.biwi shohar ko hath se ziada marti h uski nasal tak barbad kr dty hy .sarkash nafarman khudgharz biwi agr ho tou uska elaj tak bhi mojud nahen.insan acha hona chahye mard ho ya aurat.khudgharz lalchi behis insan na acha mard hota hy na achi aurat.

  • maryam

    love this drama becuz of sanam. my mom is taking sikanders side and i am taking sanam side. my mom says that every man hits his wife and she needs to settle with him but i think otherwise . i think no men should hit , swear or insult his wife. this drama is great and sanam is doing great acting 🙂 the bit where sikanders mom tells sanam to give all the jewellery back i was just disgusted at that part but her face was priceless. haha. it just shows that if kiran wanted money jewellery clothes etc she would have stayed

  • Guest

    Umera Ahmed has written Dur-e-shehwar on thr same pattern which shows the same theme but it was presented with past memories and present conditions .Girls see their fathers perfect never thought bad about then even any inch of length . Kankar `s behroz sabzwari and dur-e-ehehwar `s Qawi khan displayed same duality ; they behaved their wives starangers and remained aloof and arrogant but when fate turn the same card towards their offspring , they resist and become a defensive wall for their daughters and situation leads towards separation , It shows higher divorce rate vs children insecurities .

    Drama revolves around the same idea that is divorce . Why Kiran is thinking divorce is only solution and after it she would be labeled respected . Divorced ladies are not esteemed . Yes , it is a very brave decision to choose between respect and love ; but who will decide she would be respected after marriage ,

    @FatimaAwan:disqus you totally forget to catch the view of Begroz when Kiran is saying she has complaints against her father-in-law. You did not highlighted the duality of kiran`s father at that time and her ashamed face.

    When in-lwas came ,does it is permissible to debate like we do with class mate or acting of sanam baloch is not suiting the scene . She do not think and questioned with her father getting informed by her mother she is also beaten and abused lady of her father once .Kiran should also raised the same question to her parents as well too.

    I agree the mismatch of sikandar and sanam baloch ; materialistic and soul based love . Sikandr thought kiran would be fine when he will heap up all the precious things around him .

    Whereas Kiran heart is demanding just one thing that is love and love without respect is unbearable and we can not say it is love at all . yes , it is need and habit just which can be replaced with some one else . As Iqbal nicely said :

    خاموش اے دل بھری محفل میں چلانا نہیں اچھا
    ادب پہلا قرینہ ہے محبت کے قرینوں میں

    And , war between and love and lust witll go side by side . Who ever seek for respect is separated either she is married and engaged . Man consider girls and women just a bargaining chip ; just to see them submissive .

    Yes , one should revolt again the established norm of culture which is wrong . But always rebel has to face punishment for sins which she or he has not committed at all .
    Should we all reflect this beautiful message which is in fact a good one but will not change a mind set . It will create loneliness . in present culture . same sex compassion has increased due to misogyny ,misanthropy and feminism , So what Umera is suggesting is not a solution at all rather complicate the situation further as well too .

  • fairy

    Thumbs up for Umera Ahmed! This episode was superbly directed! I loved each and every scene… The dialogue by Kiran to her mother in law “Aap ki bhi izzat thi” was like waking up someone and making the person realize what she did with her izzat…
    This episode was actually the theme episode of the whole serial!..

    • FatimaAwan

      So right about that scene fairy but soon afterwards Shaista decides to go back to her old life because izzat kamana buhat mushkil kaam hai;)

  • Sadia Shafiq

    Umera Ahmed has written Dur-e-shehwar on thr same pattern which shows the same theme but it was presented with past memories and present conditions .Girls see their fathers perfect never thought bad about then even any inch of length . Kankar `s behroz sabzwari and dur-e-ehehwar `s Qawi khan displayed same duality ; they behaved their wives starangers and remained aloof and arrogant but when fate turn the same card towards their offspring , they resist and become a defensive wall for their daughters and situation leads towards separation , It shows higher divorce rate vs children insecurities .

    Drama revolves around the same idea that is divorce . Why Kiran is thinking divorce is only solution and after it she would be labeled respected . Divorced ladies are not esteemed . Yes , it is a very brave decision to choose between respect and love ; but who will decide she would be respected after marriage ,

    @FatimaAwan:disqus you totally forget to catch the view of Begroz when Kiran is saying she has complaints against her father-in-law. You did not highlighted the duality of kiran`s father at that time and her ashamed face.

    When in-lwas came ,does it is permissible to debate like we do with class mate or acting of sanam baloch is not suiting the scene . She do not think and questioned with her father getting informed by her mother she is also beaten and abused lady of her father once .Kiran should also raised the same question to her parents as well too.

    I agree the mismatch of sikandar and sanam baloch ; materialistic and soul based love . Sikandr thought kiran would be fine when he will heap up all the precious things around him .

    Whereas Kiran heart is demanding just one thing that is love and love without respect is unbearable and we can not say it is love at all . yes , it is need and habit just which can be replaced with some one else . As Iqbal nicely said :

    خاموش اے دل بھری محفل میں چلانا نہیں اچھا
    ادب پہلا قرینہ ہے محبت کے قرینوں میں

    And , war between and love and lust witll go side by side . Who ever seek for respect is separated either she is married and engaged . Man consider girls and women just a bargaining chip ; just to see them submissive .

    Yes , one should revolt again the established norm of culture which is wrong . But always rebel has to face punishment for sins which she or he has not committed at all .
    Should we all reflect this beautiful message which is in fact a good one but will not change a mind set . It will create loneliness . in present culture . same sex compassion has increased due to misogyny ,misanthropy and feminism , So what Umera is suggesting is not a solution at all rather complicate the situation further as well too .

  • farah.S

    Let’s put domestic voilence aside for a minute. Let’s concentrate on Principked Kiran. Don’t some of you think she has chip on the shoulder, she is argumentative and at times too impulsive.
    Sheep insulted her father-in -law on account of domestic voilence. How fair and just that she completely overlooked her own father committing the same crime. Writer as she always has her internal bias here. We ladies are getting hysterical on issue of domestic voilence while ignoring all other flaws and imbalance in story line.

  • TSBindra

    FatimaAwan, A great review, fabulous acting by Sanam, thought provoking dialogues (GEMS!), brilliant direction and kudos to Umera Ahmed. Further, an interesting debate!

    • FatimaAwan

      Thank you so much TSBindra. I expect nothing short of gems from Umera Ahmed:) She is a brilliant writer.

  • Silver Eyes

    First of all Thank you Fatima for suggesting me to try another browser… otherwise i m so dumb couldn’t think of it on my own. 😀 …
    Kankar is the best drama going on these days especially for me… i dont get bored watching it…. ! I m on kiran’s side from the begining n u know that … still i will say that she is doing right. This should be done with the husbands so that the next time they wont think of hitting or abusing their wives. Our women should be strong like kiran. I m highly impressed how boldly she took a step without her parents support and moreover she remained stick to it… ! I feel sorry for her too because she was nice but still going through these hardships… She has to face people at college too and has to answer all … Hate arzoo and her mother,… how desperate is faiqa for the marriage of sikander and arzoo..!!.
    Well my views apart.. u have written a great review fatima… i missed commenting here but now i m happy as i m back 😀

    • FatimaAwan

      I am glad it worked:) You were sorely missed, it is great to have you back. I agree with you, the thing that I like about Kankar the most is the depth with which it is putting a very important message forward and also because just like you, I really like Kiran’s character. I loved the way she told her friend everything and how she is so sure that she is right. Faiqa is a gone case.
      Thanks a ton for liking the reviews, so happy that you are back:))))))

  • barbie

    fatima awan
    I like your review very much .and ialso thi dialogue”Jo deen shoharvko biwi ka libaas kehta hai wo use cheer pharne ka hukam kese de sakta hai”

    • FatimaAwan

      Thank you Barbie. That was a beautiful dialogues which said so much in just one line. Thank you so much for sharing your favorite dialogue with us:)

  • mubaraka

    I totally totally agree with you fatema
    I love your reviews. I love sanam baloch’s acting. And she is absolutely right taking a stand for her right. If she gives sikander one more chance, he’ll learn to beat her and apologize everytime.
    but in this episode my favourite scene was when sikander and his parents come to take kiran and the statements she says were amazing.

    • FatimaAwan

      Mubaraka thank you so much for commenting, It is always so good to hear from someone new:) yes, that particular scene was outstanding, I loved it too.

  • Abbas

    The biggest issue with our society is blindness to main issues being faced. We use religion when we see it suits us and then use culture when we see it suits us. We are a society of hypocrites, if Man is allowed to second marriage, why a women cannot do the same. If man gets divorce then he’s innocent and if women gets divorce she’s devil. Even though i know that we have destroyed our society in the name of religion by using it wrong way, at last someone is saying it loud and clear what our religion teach us in this relationship of husband and wife.
    No one mentioned what Islam says about those husbands who beat’s their wife even she is pious and obedient, no one wants to hear this in our society. If we want to change our self we need to be honest (both Men and Women). I can see a society where men beats women and where women controls men..both are wrong.

  • Atif Ahmed

    I’m amazed but this futile discussion. Drama is full of stale archaic annoying characters. I’m a loss, people must be really desperate to like this medieval story. It’s more of a torture’ not entertainment

  • MeMyself

    I think this is a new one for the audience. Aisa bhi ho sakta hai kay husband mafi mangay lekin wife maaf na karay…aisi bhi koi cheez ho sakti hai jo biwi kay liye naqabilay bardasht ho!
    Kiran nay jitna rona tha ro liya. She cried once when she told her mom how the miscarriage happened and she cried today when she faced Sikander and his family and burned all the bridges that would lead her back to Sikander’s life. She has been putting up a strong front to ensure the dissolution of the marriage but she too is sad that it ended/sad that it wasn’t as good as it could have been. It was very painful to watch her go through all this.
    Another scene that really touched my heart was Adnan’s expression when Kiran asks him “tumhay mujh say hamdardi nahin?” If only she knew….

  • Sofia

    Answer to Fatima’s question:
    Wrong message yeh hai kay aik achi bhali pari likhi maa ko aik dam say itna sakhat dil bana diya. Taqreeban har dosray serial main maa ko bura dikhaya jata hai. Likhnay walay achi maaon ko kiyon bhol jatay hain jo keh aksareeyat main hain. Anrezi main hi shayad kehtay hain kay “exceptions don’t make rules.” Aisha ki soorat-e-hal aisi nahi kay usay bura dikhaya jaye. Ab society ko zaroorat hai is bat ki kay usay dikhaya jaye kay maa ka darja kitna buland hai or kiyon. Olad kay liye raton ki needein qurban karnay wali maa kabhi bhi apnay olad kay sath bura hota daikh nahi sakti kuja yeh kay wo usay kisi zalam kay sath rehnay par majboor kare.

  • guest usa

    My dear readers! Assalamoaliakum. I have been watching this drama and loving every scene and dialogue of every role from the very beginning, but, after watching latest episode I am just disappointed. I mean why divorce is the only solution to keep your self respect high and safe in such a relationship stage in which kiran and sikandar are. Kiran is just over reacting and taking sympathy votes and just escaping from the relationship challenges as she is not emotionally strong. Sikandar was baddddddd enough to abuse and even hurt her but he was embarrassed really. If he was an egoistic stubborn man he could never shed tears in front of his wife, he could never call her again n again, he could never come to her parents and remain humble. He really made an effort to make his home. On the other hand, unfortunately kiran could never give him due respect for which sikandar gets offended. She was a spoiled child of her parents and then in husband’s house she could not give respect to anyone. Sikandar even got insulted many times by her wife, in front of kirans parents but he did not make any point of it and spread the issue.
    just tell me who can get respect without giving it first? How she can ask for her rights before taking any responsibility? if kiran realizes her mistakes too then her mind could get cool and keep her on right track. Sikandar should leave her alone to take her time for recovery of his mind and soul or never let her go to her parents in such a bad mood. when there is mishap in marital life husband and wife should try to stick together to heal the wounds and just let the ego go away between them.
    Girls, always remember, you got the doors open for you for education, liberty and independence. So, now its your duty too to have skills required to make the relationships successful. Acquire all skills required to be a successful person well-educative, noble, dignified, modest, home makers (dilon aur rishton ko jorny wali) Otherwise, if you couldn’t succeed on the platform of marriage you education, your parents and even your own self will be cursed no matter how many times u get married or how much education you get afterall its a matter of ATTITUDE!

    • A nale guest from USA

      this is such a misguiding review. sikandar got many chances from her and she acted after losing their child. so your definition of ego is such that a woman loses her child to domestic abuse and yet compromise. This is outright unislamic attitude. there is a reason, Allah has left divorse out there although it is one of the disliked halal deeds. sikandar is a nice guy but should get help to fix this issue (just like many men). there is nothing wrong in acknowledging and getting medical help for matters which require so. Men should get to the point of abusing their power given to them by Allah (swt) for this test of life and they have been protectors not as a show of machoism but to act responsibily, develop a society of mo’ahids (believers of monothiesm) and leave this world with message of Islam before completing their test of life (and passing on)

      A woman’s role in this is extremely important. she is the bearer and nourisher of the future generation and cannot be treated like this.

      We must see the message of the play in the bigger picture for the sake of individuals, families and community. It is writers like this writer who bring important reforms. someone here had a very surprising and rather naive comments about scholars and politicians lecturing us. They conveniently forget that teachers and writers are those reformers who bring the practical aspects of islamic teaching to forefront by using their own God gifted skills

      • Guest usa

        My dear (whoever)…Just take a deep breath and then take my
        points rationally. There is no misguidance except bring by our own deeds. I
        know many families n girls who got married with guys having such family problems
        and they earned respect and won the hearts of husband n their family. It would
        be surprising to know I think for you that a training of a girl counts a lot in
        a marriage contract more than the man. When a girl gets married in a joint family
        system especially, she has to face a lot of situation everyday every moment.
        Everyone expects from her and she has expectations too with all especially from
        her husband. But, you know in order to become husband’s family member you have
        to keep your esteem aside not for the whole life but for couple of years. Starting
        years are like sowing the seeds and upcoming like start getting your results. Well,
        it’s a long deep topic not everyone can understand! The point is, a girl can
        handle a man if she has more control over her anger and expectations plus
        emotionally stability.

        I do respect our writers and reformers, however, nobody is
        perfect. If you talk about Islam here then there are many points missing in
        drama according to Islamic perspective. In Islam, women needs to give her
        husband due respect in front of her family and in all ways. In drama, the first
        issue was created by the girl’s side by not treating her husband respectfully
        and then Sikander shouted as a reaction if you remember. Good families teach
        their daughters before marriage how to treat their husbands and families in the
        respectful way. Otherwise, she will have to lose their dignity along with their
        family.

        Last but not the least, in this play Divorce was the only
        solution and it was executed well enough. I am making point on Kiran’s irrational
        behavior and attitude towards marriage. If the drama ends up with giving
        lessons to Sikander type category only then the Drama is not at all giving a
        fruitful message rather incomplete serial it would be considered and not at all
        a perfect play from Umera Ahmad this time. Let’s c what is ahead for us! God
        bless you buddy!