The world has now become a global village and this is the reason why long distance relationships are becoming popular. This is the age of Facebook, Skype and thousands of apps like these and now contacting people is a piece of cake. Getting into a long distance relationship is very easy but making it work and last long is a big challenge. In this article I will focus on some of the ways to make your long distance relationship work and last long. After reading this article keeping and making a long distance relationship will become more and more easier for all the worried long distant couples out there.
It is very important to ask yourself the question that are you both clear on the parameters of the relationship. This means that you should name your relationship and define it as dating, seeing each other, commited, engaged or married. These questions are in some cases very difficult to ask but they save you from awkward confusions and misunderstandings. By doing this you can set a road map for yourself that what do you need to do. After clearly locating that where do you stand in the spectrum of relationships, it is very important to do things other than just a random phone call. Interaction over the phone can become boring and usual in the relationships so try other forms of interactions such as watching a TV show simultaneously or interacting through the video call. This will increase your interest towards the relationship as well as your partner’s.
It is necessary to communicate more than once in a day if possible. This is because you obviously wont be able to meet each other so talking to each other must be increased accordingly. Tell each other about your day, your plans or any problems. Ask for advice to show that the partner’s advice really matters. Be creative, writing letters, sending flowers or small gifts and emailing each other can also refresh the feelings in one’s heart. Remember that quality is better than quantity and small special gifts matter alot so dont be miser and try using ways to relax your partner. It is also necessary for both of the partners to enjoy the advantages of a long distance relationship. The advantages include more time to spend with friends, the pleasure of seeing your partner after a span of time, no arguments and much more.
Moreover it is necessary to pursue common interests. As if there is a movie that you both enjoyed seeing together then watch it individually and call each other to talk about it and how you felt seeing it alone. Apart from movies read the book you loved reading together, star gaze while talking and synchronize stuff together. Find ways to show the strong bonding you have for your partners. Small little things can show your love and make your partner happy so do not stop doing it. Another important thing is to know that people have their free will and no one can or should control another person. As long as you are both interested in being in the relationship you will stick with it and the distance will not matter. It does not make any difference whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your wedding picture on the wall. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work. Otherwise it will end with just the blink of an eye. Just because you are in a long-distance relationship doesn’t mean your lives will pause. So always give your partner enough space to breath freely.
Ultimately you would want to live together so discussing how you’re going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is going somewhere and that your efforts and frustrations are not in vain. Talk about your goals. Support and encourage each other. Try to make the time to visit each other as often as possible. A relationship cannot last if the only thing you have is the phone call. You need to see each other up close and personal everytime you get a chance. Consistency can help a long-distance relationship survive. Give your partner a personal object of yours so, when they miss you, they will be able to hold on to something that belonged to you. This will provide the feeling of being with you. Remember that you’re still in a relationship. You have to be there for your partner if your partner is ever in trouble, or hurt. If they end up dealing with everything alone, they will not need you. Lastly, when you see each other, try spending as much time together as you can. Do not hesitate and keep those feelings of excitement and attraction alive. This is how your long distance relationship can become a successful one.
Written by: Moomal Hassan