Every one of us experiences heartbreak at least once in our lifetime. While it is not easy getting over a relationship you thought was meant to be forever, it is possible with a little time, effort and determination. Here’s a guide for you on how to get over a heartbreak slowly and steadily:
Don’t force yourself to “just get over it“
It can take a lot of time, energy and work to get over a broken heart especially if you truly loved your partner and spent years with them. It’s OK to cry and let your feelings out to a trusted friend or family member. Do not do anything stupid in the process while taking your time getting over things. Remember that feelings can’t hurt you. They are simply an energy that needs to move through you and move on. If you’re finding it hard to move on, consider seeing a therapist to guide you on how to get through this difficult situation.
Let your emotions out
If you’re feeling angry, let your feelings out. Anger, sadness, anxiety, grief, depression, are all energies that want to be released from your body. Try screaming, kicking a punching, listening to music. Being energetic and doing things will relieve all the energy and emotions you’ve been feeling.
Forgive and forget and move on one step at a time. Stop blaming yourself or the other person for this heartbreak. Sometimes relationships don’t work out because of certain circumstances we have no hold over. In these scenario, we can’t hold grudges for the other person.
Forgiveness is not about the other person or letting them off the hook. Forgiveness is for YOU. In fact, the definition of forgiveness is to stop feeling anger or blame at someone who has done something wrong. By forgiving, you break the chains that are binding you and allow yourself to live a better life with the person you are meant to be with. Write a letter of forgiveness, say a prayer, or set the intention to forgive.
Be honest with yourself over why the relationship ended. Yes, you had good times but you had to say goodbye for a reason. Until and unless you accept the fact that the other person is no longer there for good, you will be able to move on.
Learn to let go
Let go of the memories, the experiences and all the wonderful times you spent with the person. The more you stay attached to them, the more difficult it will be for you to move on in life. Some experiences are not there for you just to cause you pain but also teach you lessons in life. Trust God because he gave you this life to begin with.
Get on with your life
Don’t allow this breakup to continue hurting you by hardening your heart and closing off to new love. Get out there and meet your friends,do things you once loved and enjoyed doing. Live your life, laugh again and love again. Be happy and just smile.