Relationships can be complicated even when two people are in love. The reasons for these complications can be many from personality clashes to conflicting ideas and expectations. Sometimes there are such problems in relationships that even with all the love you feel for someone, you find it difficult to keep the relationship growing. In such times, one or both the partners would be desperately looking for ways to save the relationship from dying. Sometimes a breakup hurts more when you know that you are meant to be with someone but the circumstances are such that you are headed towards a breakup. If someone wants to save a relationship that deserves saving then there are many different ways to go about it.
Here are some things you can actively do in order to save your relationship from a breakup.
Figure Out What The Actual Issues Are
The first step towards saving your relationship would be to figure out what the actual issues are. Why do you think you are headed towards a breakup? While thinking about the actual issues causing the problems, make sure you are neutral and fair.
Patience Is The Key
When you set out to save a dying relationship, make sure that you do not do with an angry mindset. If there are already issues in the relationship, it would mean that your patience is already being tested. Therefore, it is really important for you to understand that in order to make productive efforts, you have to start with patience knowing that it is not going to be easy.
Saving Relationships Is Teamwork
One person cannot save a relationship; it will take both the partners involved to work consciously towards developing a healthier relationship. If one person wants to save the relationship and the other one does not even want to stay then chances are that no matter how hard you try, the breakup will ultimately happen. Make sure your partner also wants to save the relationship so that your efforts don’t go to waste.
Work On The Issues
Once you have figured out what the actual issues are and your partner wants to work on them too, get into action immediately. Do not expect things to change first but start working towards resolving the problems immediately.
Stop The Blame Game
Most often when relationships are on the verge of a breakup, the partners are usually blaming each other. If you want to save your relationship stop the blame game because it will only widen the gap and will not help rescue the relationship.
Hold Yourself Responsible
If you have been blaming your partner for everything but still want to save the relationship, chances are that you too might have made some mistakes. It is not easy holding oneself responsible but it needs to be done so that you can share the responsibility and see things for what they are. Most importantly, this is the only way you can fix the problems which might be because of your irrational behavior or actions.
Give Each Other Space
Sometimes couples need to spend a lot of time with each other in order to strengthen relationships. Absence can make a heart grow fonder. Let them miss you, do something other than spending time with your partner, and make sure that they feel like you are giving them space, maybe that is all they need!
Spend Quality Time Together
When it comes to spending time together, quality should always be put before quantity. If you are spending a lot of time together but it is not benefiting your relationship than spend lesser time but make the most of it. Make sure this time is spent doing what both of you love. Sometimes a heart-to-heart conversation can do wonders as well.
Gratitude Is A Must
Make a conscious effort to appreciate every little thing about your relationship and your partner. Be thankful for those small gestures which you might have been taking for granted. Gratitude can change so much in a relationship.
Sharing Your Thoughts & Feelings
When you get together to spend quality time with your partner, make sure that both of you dedicate a few minutes to sharing with each other how you feel. This will help you and your partner understand each other.
Be Supportive & Understanding
When your partner shares his/her thoughts and feelings with you, make sure that you are supportive. Try to understand their point of view even when it does not make sense to you. Every individual has different needs and ideas; if you want your relationship to flourish you will have to accept your partner for who he/she is.
Believe In Your Partner
Even though things might look grim but when your partner tells you that he/she also wants to save the relationship, believe them. Both of you can only work towards a better relationship if you are willing to give each other a chance knowing that both of you want to make this relationship work.
Don’t Be Judgmental
Whenever you have a conversation with your partner about different issues make sure you have an open mind. Also, stop judging everything your partner does or says because that will create more misunderstandings.
Lower Your Expectations
Sometimes we get disappointed so often because we are expecting a lot from the other person. When these expectations are not met, they lead to fights between couples. If you really want to save your relationship from a breakup then lower your expectations. If you do so, it will change the way you look at things.
If you focus too much on the relationship, you are bound to get more anxious. If you get anxious, you will naturally have less patience. It would be great if you can distract yourself with things that bring you happiness. If your partner wants more time from you then obviously you do not need to do this.
If you are in a relationship that you want to save but there are too many issues, there is a big chance that you are thinking about the problems all the time. This over-thinking will lead to distress and you will make scenarios that do not exist. Try not to think all the time about it.
Be Honest About Your Fears
It is really important, to be honest with your partner about your fears. Tell them that you are scared of losing them and want to save this relationship. Do not let your ego stop you!
Talk To Mutual Friends
If you have mutual friends who want the best for you, it will be a great idea to get them involved. They can perhaps guide you since they might be able to see things from a different perspective. Friends can help in so many ways, don’t be hesitant to lean on them.
Make Your Partner Feel Special
Even though your relationship might be going through a tough phase, your partner would still love for you to do something special for them. This could help you two get closer.
Go On A Holiday
Sometimes a change of scenery can do wonders. Plan a holiday even if it is a short one and this might be the break you and your partner need in order to start afresh.
If you want to save your relationship get into action today. Don’t let anyone or anything stand in your way.